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She has seen too many people in her community (far younger and healthier than her) suffer horribly through chemo.

She just witnessed her pastor turn into a shell of his former self over the past 2 yrs with chemo and then die. One of her close friends has been battling lung cancer and getting chemo and having a rough time.

I accompanied her to her first oncologist appt this week. Dr asked her what she was willing to tolerate as treatment. She said NO CHEMO. He said most elderly say that. He did not push her at all.

She has good insurance.
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My feeling is that most doctors take it over the edge with the elderly, why put a woman that age through Chemo?

What to possibly live another 6 months and suffer all the way through it?

Today, it is all about money, how much can you get from Medicare?
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yes, i have a friend whose mother (83) did chemo (breast cancer). very bad idea. she suffered a lot, lived some months, then died.

my friend tried to warn her mother not to do it. but the doctor pressured her. after her death, the doctor apologized to my friend: chemo was the wrong decision.
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XenaJada, so sorry to read your Mom has breast cancer. Do you know what stage?

If the cancer is only in that one breast and is a very low Stage, have Mom ask her doctor if he/she thinks doing mastectomy might be a better choice. I know for myself, I had a mastectomy 13 years ago and didn't need chemo or radiation, but did have to take pills that I had trouble with side effect.

This can vary from patient to patient.
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Xena, I'm so sorry to hear this.

What treatment has your mom's oncologist recommended? Not all breast cancers are the same and it's not like all of the respond to chemo. And not all chemo is the same.

Is someone going to the oncology appointments besides mom and dad? Taking along another set of ears could be very helpful.

My mom had breast cancer at 65. My dad was so hysterical, he couldn't hear anything the doctors were saying.

My parents, who were very smart, rational people BOTH became emotional basket cases. My mother almost made a very poor treatment choice just to get the surgery over with because she couldn't bear how my dad was behaving.

((((Hugs))))).
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