I'm very angry after caring for husband for 6 years who has cognitive decline & hearing difficulties. I’m angry at everyone that doesn’t do the right thing (while driving behind slow drivers, people who don’t realize I’m having psychological pain from constant worry about husband etc).
Ive read its very natural to have a variety of feelings that include anger, frustration, etc and then that’s followed by guilt. Get some help- maybe call your general practitioner and have him/her offer some suggestions. You are NOT abnormal or bad. You are normal.
Ive stayed w my father in law, in his home, for the past 5 years and it is hard. Please get some help from a Dr or a friend or a member of a church.
I guess you would pull your hair out feeling this way.
Did you mean depleted? Just curious. I like the hair removed better.
I react with internal ferocity against rediculous annoyances, with the same intensity as if it's something major.
A stranger who I feel is being disrespectful of me, rudeness of shop assistants, drivers, lack of common courtesy, I will challenge instances verbally. It's as if I am constantly full to the brim with anger that I am being walked over by family, and anything else added , just blows the lid.
Adrenaline with nowhere to go.
At last I have accepted the warnings of people around me that I must make changes.
I have applied for Extra Care housing for my Dad with early-ish Dementia and a lifelong bad attitude to others needs. Probably a couple of months wait but you know what??
The anger has gone.
so long with your own disabilities. I was thinking how in the past there
were women who cared for elderly or infirm family members, and basically
that was their only job. And also usually had community of people to
help as we lived more often in extended families. It's so tough to do it all
on your own. So glad you have help now!!
I haven't met many families of my parents generation that did so much
for their own parents . My dad totally abandoned his mother who was
ill for years, only visited her once every few years, same for my mother.
When they were my age they were living the high life, travelling the
world on cruises, etc. My father thinks spending two weeks helping him
in the hospital is a vacation for me because it's sunny outside. Uh... nope.
I'd say it's a bit of willful ignorance along with the lack of knowledge. Care
giving is a very behind the scenes thing.
if you can... please report him...
I wonder if this site has been hacked?