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Pack up her things and drop her off at the home of whoever has her POA. You're not the one responsible for your husband's grandmother if the two of you have split. She's no longer your family and responsibility. If you want to be her caregiver and choose to, then you need a contract in writing agreeing to whatever your demands for taking it on. In that contract, make sure it's clearly stipulated that the first time a payment is not made to you, granny gets dropped off at her POA's house.
Well if I was Grandma... Old, demented, taken in by family, then dumped on someone... Well I would hope someone just bundled me up, dropped me off somewhere safe. Hospital or Police Station - Nurses may understand my needs better than Police.. ? Then a nursing home would do. Somewhere with a bed, a shower, hope of some hot meals.
I’m so sorry that you are dealing with this situation. What a freaking nightmare!
I certainly understand why you are divorcing him! He is showing NO consideration for you.
Bring granny over to your sons house, or do you think he would walk out on your son too?
Why was she taken out of her nursing home to live with you? Was she in a nursing home close to your home? Did you agree to that or did he just bring her home?
What a sad situation for your children.
Who have you spoken to regarding her care?
Wishing you all the best in this horribly stressful and dangerous situation!
Where are her children?Because they r the people who should make sure she is cared for. Either in their homes or placing her somewhere. I would contact them and tell them that someone needs to take over you have no authority and cannot be responsible for her. If they say, no, then tell them u will be calling APS and allowing them to take over her care. At that time, you will give them their phone numbers so they can be contacted.
She has 1 son who claims he can’t take her and I don’t have his address to drop her off. She is intolerable and everyone knows it. I already told him I was calling APS and he doesn’t care! He claims he has nowhere to bring her because he is living with my son for now.
If this is a recent split with your husband, there is still some shaking down to sort out what is going to happen. Most guys walk out to a flat with the sound system and the car, not with their grandma!
Clearly things can’t remain like this, but it may depend on the finances. Have you been renting yourselves, or is the house in joint names, or does it actually belong to grandma? If you could give more details, we could make more realistic suggestions. Are you still in contact with your husband, or has he gone AWOL completely? This may turn out to be one for the lawyers and the APS, but there really ought to be room for some rational discussion first.
You have my total sympathy for an impossible situation.
I am no longer in contact with him and have changed my number. My adult son relays messages and he doesn’t care about me calling APS. I own my own home, although this is a community property state, has no relevance regarding him leaving her here. He should have taken her with him wherever he went. She has been with us for 2yrs and was taken out of the nursing home. They have not gotten along and yelled at each other for the last 2 yrs. She makes our lives miserable and is impossible to live with. She begs for cigarettes from strangers on the corner and has been brought back home by them. My kids and myself don’t even want to come home. She has dementia and picks up butts from off the ground. She knocks on the neighbors door and asks children for cigarettes and nothing helps. She has lung disease and should not be smoking. She doesn’t want to bathe, or even get dressed. I’m afraid for her being here when I’m at work, he was here in the day time with her. I have called everyone and don’t know what to do.
Deliver Mom to his new home, wherever that is. If he has moved out of State or out of City you may be down to the ER dump, which is having Emergency Services transport Grandmother to a hospital, leaving the name and number of next of kin, and telling Social Services on your way out that you cannot accept her back into your home, and cannot care for her either physically nor mentally (even if that home is jointly held with yourself and husband). I would let him know that you will be forced to do this if conditions remain as they are. Give him a month to make arrangements. What is the physical and mental condition of the grandmother. Have you or has he been the primary caregiver, and for how long?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Granny dump may be needed here...
I certainly understand why you are divorcing him! He is showing NO consideration for you.
Bring granny over to your sons house, or do you think he would walk out on your son too?
Why was she taken out of her nursing home to live with you? Was she in a nursing home close to your home? Did you agree to that or did he just bring her home?
What a sad situation for your children.
Who have you spoken to regarding her care?
Wishing you all the best in this horribly stressful and dangerous situation!
What is stopping you from calling APS?
How old is she? How old are your children?
Call APS to check this?
Clearly things can’t remain like this, but it may depend on the finances. Have you been renting yourselves, or is the house in joint names, or does it actually belong to grandma? If you could give more details, we could make more realistic suggestions. Are you still in contact with your husband, or has he gone AWOL completely? This may turn out to be one for the lawyers and the APS, but there really ought to be room for some rational discussion first.
You have my total sympathy for an impossible situation.
What is the physical and mental condition of the grandmother. Have you or has he been the primary caregiver, and for how long?