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My mother has dementia. Paranoia is one of her chronic symptoms. She gave the last 2 rent money orders to a homeless person who she thought would out it in box. She gets paranoid when she does it herself and will keep asking if she put it the correct box. She must have trusted this woman more than most. She must have received one of the notices since she told me about one court the day I give her the money orders every 1st of the month. The homeless woman was able to cash money orders made to her building By the time I wa able to get bank to trace money orders the hearing happened and she now has judgement for eviction. How long until the constable gets here. Is there anything I can do. I don’t have the whole $1600. I have half and they will only take the full amount

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A person with dementia should NEVER handle paying bills because they can’t. Your mother has been evicted and now she has to find a new place to live. This sounds like good news though because she shouldn’t live on her own, for very obvious reasons listed here.
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Yes, there's something you can do. Stop giving a paranoid old person with dementia money orders to pay her rent with. You pay your mother's rent directly to whoever is supposed to be paid. When the constable arrives (I'm assuming you're in the UK because here in the U.S. we call them cops or police) tell him what's going on and that your mother had dementia. They may be able to help with this situation by putting you in touch with social workers and the right people who can help your mother.

Next, speak to the police in your mother's area and ask them to start doing regular wellness checks on her. They will stop by a couple times a week to check on her if you ask for it.

Clearly your mother has dementia and is not in her right mind. She cannot live alone anymore or have access to money. This is what Adult Protective Services is for. It is to protect vulnerable adults by keeping them safe.

It's good that the bank traced the money orders. The homeless woman they were given to would have had to put her name on them and show proper identification at the bank for them to be cashed. So she can be arrested for theft, fraud and forgery which will likely be a prison sentence. You'd be doing her a favor. A prison cell beats sleeping on the street and if she gets in the system she will be on social services' radar and can get help. So press charges. This woman is obviously local if your mother knows her and has given her the rent money twice. Have her arrested and press charges.

You will probably have to petition the court for emergency guardianship/conservatorship if your mother has nothing in writing.
She has to either be in a care facility or living with a caregiver for her own safety.
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Isthisrealyreal Feb 29, 2024
Social services in the USA is off the table for felons. So going to jail is not a way to get help. Especially with charges of financial exploitation of a vulnerable senior, fraud and who knows what else.

I do agree charges should be filed and pressed, this behavior needs to be stopped before she finds another victim and she will, that's what predators do.
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Danny, are you in the UK?


Is your mom's doctor aware of her dementia? Perhaps s/he can intervene with the constabulary/local council?
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Your mother is not able to live alone any longer . Call her local County Area of Aging to come out and do a needs assessment to help get her placed in a facility where she can have 24/7 supervision . Or call APS.
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