I’m 56 years old and due to a brain tumor, I live at home. When they die, I will go into assisted living. Mom and I have always been best friends, but in the last year, Mom’s focus and fear about her age (she is 80), she is sad and withdrawn. My parents are very active, although Mom has severe rheumatoid arthritis, but the fear of the end of life colors all of our lives every day. I want to be supportive and positive, but it’s hard not to obsess about death too. We are spiritual people and I want to bring my faith into this situation so I can adapt to the changes in my life and those in Mom and Dad’s.
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Best of luck to you.
For yourself you are very articulate. You can assure mom you will be OK, you will negotiate things when the are gone, or should they need care, and you will avail yourself of the system for care as best you can. And that stuff WILL happen. It already HAS, right? And it will continue to. But you will all muster on best you can.
The Social Worker will decide about referral perhaps for some mild medication, anti-anxiety or anti-depressant.
We want to think we can get ducks in the row. But when what is coming is the UNKNOWN, we can't, and it makes us a bit desperate. I call that NORMAL. But there needs to be some help TALKING IT OUT and WORKING IT THROUGH, and accepting that even when all that is said and done, you will be right back here, expecting the unexpected.
You have my very best wishes, all of you, and I am so thankful for you to have this mutual love and support.
You mention Mom’s mood and attitude seems to have taken a nosedive in the past year. Has anyone talked about this with her doctor? Maybe there is an issue with her medications for her condition. Maybe she could benefit from an antidepressant?