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You don't say if he has Dementia or Alzheimer's? POA does not come into effect until the person can no longer do or think for themselves. If he has been diagnosed then speak to his doctor. Ask if he can report FIL to DMV. Or call DMV and see if they can test FIL. If it is found he Can't drive then take his keys away. Take the car out of sight and sell it.
My brother & I made up a story about my car in shop - in order to borrow my Dads car- Just to get keys away from him. In the meantime I set-up Neuro-psych appt for Cognitive testing. His scores were so low the Dr said he was “Impaired” & Dr told him he was not to drive. My advise is - Do or say whatever you need to in order to get the keys away, Because they put everyone on the road at risk.
Does your father in law have mental capacity? Is there a formal medical or legal statement as to his soundness of mind?
If he is deemed formally "incompetent" then yes you have the authority - nay, the responsibility - to remove his car and, apart from anything, protect him from the risk of utter financial ruin were he to have an uninsured catastrophic accident. I hate to be cold, but it's not his hurting himself that's your main worry - what if he injures somebody else?
If not, tread a little more carefully. You can put the car in safekeeping, out of harm's way, and get creative about the reasons why this has been done (LMax's idea is nice!). You could disable it - remove the distributor cap or the battery, put it on axle stands. But you can't just pinch it.
My mother drove FAR past her "capability" to do so. She was so shrunken, she saw the road between the "spokes" of the steering wheel. It was horrifying to drive with her.
She had a knee replacement. After that, she had no strength in the knee and we were able to get and keep the keys. She mourned that loss of independence, but as a family-wow, we were constantly horrified she'd cause some huge accident. AND she'd be liable.
She's never had a dr tell her not to drive, it was all family pressure and the loss of strength in the knees. BTW, every single side of her car was dented and beaten. She was hitting stationary objects all the time and wasn't even aware of it.
When Mom moved to independent living with her car I was so scared that night about her piling her new friends into the car and getting in an accident. So on Day 2 we made up a story of needing to borrow her car for a while when our dog was sick and he couldn’t jump up into our truck. She felt she was being helpful and after a week she said she really didn’t need it. But Mom was always pretty cooperative, not sure if your Dad is so, but if you can show that all his needs will be met without driving, maybe a little fib will help, instead of a strong arm tactic. Good luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My advise is - Do or say whatever you need to in order to get the keys away, Because they put everyone on the road at risk.
Does your father in law have mental capacity? Is there a formal medical or legal statement as to his soundness of mind?
If he is deemed formally "incompetent" then yes you have the authority - nay, the responsibility - to remove his car and, apart from anything, protect him from the risk of utter financial ruin were he to have an uninsured catastrophic accident. I hate to be cold, but it's not his hurting himself that's your main worry - what if he injures somebody else?
If not, tread a little more carefully. You can put the car in safekeeping, out of harm's way, and get creative about the reasons why this has been done (LMax's idea is nice!). You could disable it - remove the distributor cap or the battery, put it on axle stands. But you can't just pinch it.
She had a knee replacement. After that, she had no strength in the knee and we were able to get and keep the keys. She mourned that loss of independence, but as a family-wow, we were constantly horrified she'd cause some huge accident. AND she'd be liable.
She's never had a dr tell her not to drive, it was all family pressure and the loss of strength in the knees. BTW, every single side of her car was dented and beaten. She was hitting stationary objects all the time and wasn't even aware of it.