I went to visit my father in assisted living yesterday. There I met the son and daughter-in-law of another resident of the facility. I noticed immediately that the son smelled bad of alcohol and was going on about his recent vacations and the new car he just bought. Apparently he is part owner of a large regional alcoholic beverage distributor. After they left my brother comes to visit and my father says that the son, who my brother has met a number of times before, was just here and was drunk again. I said "Again? Well it's ironic: he owns an alcohol distributor.". Then my brother says "Well, he's rich".
I'm guessing my brother was saying that the son is rich and I'm not so I have no right to say anything negative about the son. I'm not letting this bother me abut I'm not sure if what I heard was the way I should interpret it. Does anyone know if this is a kind of fallacious argument?
I'm asking because now I really need to know when my brother was be visiting so I can avoid him. I am so sick and tired of being put down and treated like trash.
It's not your business, Lisa, with who comes to visit another in the home.
Don't go there when your brother is going, simple resolution.
I'm off to Dictionary.com "fallacious " right now......brb
fallacious
adjective
Definition of fallacious
as in unreasonable
not using or following good reasoning
it's fallacious to say that something must exist because science hasn't proven its nonexistence
Synonyms & Similar Words
unreasonable
irrational
unreasoning
illegitimate
misleading
unreasoned
illogical
weak
absurd
foolish
invalid
silly
Agreed! Your argument here is fallacious lisatrevor😁
Drunks can be obnoxious. I don’t like being around them because their behavior can be rude and unpredictable. Plus most drinkers don’t think they smell bad, but they do. The body eliminates alcohol through sweat, and I as well as others can detect the odor.
Now if it’s your brother you wish to avoid, that’s a different problem. Find out if it’s legal in your state to put a tracker on his car. Probably not.
Have you ever come out of these interactions with your brother asking yourself, "It is me?"
Yes, it is.
Just because this guy might be rich does not mean he gets to be a nuisance to the residents.
Thats the issue at hand. It is not about how you interpreted your brother’s statement.
Did he put you down in any way, shape or form? Nope!
His remark wasn’t a personal insult. He wasn’t insinuating anything about you. He made a comment about a guy being rich. That is all it was.
Do you care more about the drunk or feeling like your brother was insulting you? Or both equally?
I think it’s best if you do avoid your brother because you seem to despise him. Your arguments go way back, without any attempts to live in harmony. You probably bring out the worst in each other.
Be happy that your dad is being cared for in his facility. If you want to report this drunk, then go ahead.
Do you feel any warm feelings for your brother at all? Do you have any gratitude at all in regards to him finding a nice facility for your dad to live in?
Let it be. There is absolutely no point in holding onto grudges with your brother. It’s making you miserable. I hope that you find peace one day.
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