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Can’t see mom for thanksgiving. Already couldn’t take daughter to see her because she’s agitated and don’t want to expose my daughter to verbal abuse. Apparently, got physical with the staff today and had to be moved to a geriatric psychiatric unit. Sad to miss her this year.

I would imagine so, yes.
How old is your daughter? If age of reason you can sit long with her telling her what this disease does. Even watch a few Teepa Snow videos with her. Tell her that it really robs people of their minds and is very heartbreaking to see her so alive, but yet GONE for you as well. That she isn't the mom you remember and it's hard to see. That you do your best to honor her and keep memories strong. SHARE WITH HER. My daughter is 63 now. She never forgot things I shared with her honestly from my heart; they were deep conversations and GOOD ONES. And having THIS conversation with daughter now and discussing the burden that holidays can put upon us in terms of sadness is w wonderful opportunity that DOES HONOR to your mom and your memories of better times.
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Sorry . These situations are sad . And the holidays highlight that even more .
(((Hugs)))
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Holidays in general can be very hard on many people, I'm very sorry.

It's okay to be sad and feel it for a bit. Then get up dust yourself off, dry your tears and make some memories with your daughter. Maybe start a new tradition
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Yes dementia sucks and it steals those things and people that we hold dear.
But instead of being sad I hope that you and your daughter and whoever else brings you joy whether family or friends, will find new ways to celebrate the upcoming holidays and that you will take time to remember all that you still have to be grateful for.
Your mom would want that for you.
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Your last post says Mom has cirrhosis of the liver. It also said she is on Hospice.

So sorry things had to go this far. I guess Hospice could not help?
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