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I'm sure at 98, she's probably pretty tired. I'm guessing that if I live to that age, I will want to sleep a lot as well. Is she eating ok when you get her up? Do you have others that come and stay with her as well, as your profile says you spend about 4 nights with her? Is she the same with the others that stay with her on the other nights? It's probably not a bad idea to get hospice involved at this point as well, as they will have a nurse to come once a week to check her vitals, and someone to come bathe her a couple times a week. Plus they will pay for her diapers, any equipment needed, and any medications. Sometimes sleeping a lot, can mean that her body is getting ready for its next journey. Wishing you the best.
According to your profile, your mother lives alone in IL and you sleep there 4 nights a week and spend a few hours a day with her. How do you know she's sleeping all the time? And if so, is she eating? At 98, she may be winding down and very tired, so sleeping a lot goes with the territory. You may want to move her into Assisted Living now so she's looked after 24/7 and has meals and some activities available to her if she'd like.
Yes she is eating. She loves her carbs and sweets! When I leave her at 7:30am she is dressed and sleeping in her chair. When I return around 11:30am she is still sleeping. She says she likes to sleep. I get upset; but thinking just let her sleep. This is so hard.
She does eat and I am the only one that cares for her. She is so ready to leave this world. I thought she was sleeping so much because she is depressed (she claims she is not). 🤷♀️ thank you for answering my question.
If you are the only one caring for her, for 3-4 hours a day, and spending 4 nights with her, I would recommend that you get some inexpensive security cameras that you can access from your phone. That way you can check in on her anytime, from anywhere. I used the Blink camera system, when my husband was alive, to keep an eye on him when I had to run errands. They make them now where you can not only hear your mom, but can talk to her as well. They're around $200 for 3 cameras and the module. Well worth it, so you can have peace of mind. And I still would get hospice involved at this point as well.
My mother is 98 years old and does not sleep all day unless she is starting to get a UTI. She does get a little tired as the day goes on, but normal for her age. I do put her to bed for a afternoon nap if she likes. She usually sleeps well at night, but everyone is different, though. There are days she wants to sleep later in the morning. I let her sleep as late as she wants. She is 98 and she can do what she wants. I do not think your mom should be alone. I know it is difficult to find help with Covid, but concerned she could fall or something worse. I like the idea of a Blink camera as long it is ok with your mom. Good luck.
Yes. I would attempt to awaken three times, meal and toileting and if she wishes to walk that is great for circulation, prevention of sores. My father was the first in his early 90s other than patients of mine to tell me he was exhausted and longed only for peace and sleep and got up only for my mother, but it was a torment to him. We can only imagine this, but if we live long I am here to guarantee you, whatever age it comes at, it WILL come.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Good luck!
thank you for answering my question.
And I still would get hospice involved at this point as well.